Second half of the second trimester.

This part of the pregnancy seems to be the lull. Not much going on. Just body changes. The end of the second trimester brought about the agita!! Heartburn and indigestion. I realized I can’t eat very much. All those times I’ve heard, “you’re eating for two.” More like half of what I used to be able to eat. Thanksgiving night was the worst!! I ate a fairly decent amount and got so sick that night.

At my 23 week appointment, end of November, I had gained ten pounds. Now up to 15 total. I was a little stunned. My doctor assured me it was good. I was at the halfway mark and at a good weight. It’s not the weight I’m worried about, it’s all that’s associated with gaining too much. I was definitely over where I should’ve been when I got pregnant. I was at 150. My healthy weight, for my height, is 130. I’ll worry about getting back in shape after the baby. For now I just keep active and eat right. Although I do treat myself to fries and a burger when I get a craving.

Flu season is in full swing. Everyone’s getting sick. My doctor wanted me to get the flu shot. I never have and never will get it. I explained  that my Dad had Guilin Barre syndrome. He became a quadrapalegic overnight. We visited him in Helen Hayes hospital every weekend for two years. He had to learn how to walk all over again. Not just walk but learn all motor skills. Thank He was my hero watching his progress. My mom taking care of him and three kids. Wow. That experience had a positive impact on me at 12 years old. I saw so much. My family was even closer after it. We never missed a Sunday dinner when he came home. What I did learn years later though was that there were some cases linked to the flu vaccine. That was all I needed to hear. Now my doctor completely understood and said ok. She wouldn’t let me go on the Tdap vaccine. To prevent pertussis. That she said was protection for me and the baby.

Speaking of the baby, one thing that has been incredible is the movement. Intense at times. At other times it feels like gas bubbles. Still so surreal. Makes me wonder what he or she is up to. Dancing or just having trouble getting comfortable.

Hormones have hit. The random burst of tears, for no good reason. Although it feels really good to get it out.

Going up steps takes the air out of my lungs. So weird. Like you can’t catch your breath. That’s what pushed me to do pre-natal yoga. What a help its been.

One thing I have yet to figure out is intimacy. I’m going to ask my doctor at my next appointment. Sean and I have great sexual chemistry. Never had an issue with the big O. Something I never had to work really hard at with him. Lately though it just won’t happen. It’s like I’m almost there and then its gone. It’s awful. First I thought I’m just too worried about crushing the baby. Maybe I’m not fully focused on just Sean and I. Then I thought if he talked to me more, told me I was sexy or some shit, it would help. Turns out it hasn’t. Just something different going on with my body. Is it a hormone change, is it in my head or maybe this just happens. Hope to get some answers soon. Super frustrating! Anyone experience a change?

I have so much on my “to-do” list. Get the baby room ready, register for the shower, get a will, tour the hospital, take a CPR class, take a lamaze class and figure out my maternity leave.

One great thing I found out was a new paid family leave law that passed.

“Starting January 1, 2018, the New York State Paid Family Leave Program will provide New Yorkers job-protected, paid leave to bond with a new child, care for a loved one with a serious health condition or to help relieve family pressures when someone is called to active military service.”

It’s an additional 8 weeks at 50% pay. Doesn’t hurt to read about it. Here’s the link:

I haven’t taken a single sick day in twelve years . Being home for an extended time will be so weird. Although I’m sure I won’t have time to think about it once the baby is here. Looks like I’ll be staying in Poughkeepsie for my leave. We’re definitely not in a place to buy a home. The city would be ideal but childcare is more expensive than rent. That would make going back to work difficult. I feel like it’ll all fall into place. For now it’s been fun feeling the baby move, talking about names and forming a closer emotional bond with Sean.Cooper continues to be affectionate and shower me with love. What a blessing.

He’s also on the yoga kick!  Ha

Now off to the third trimester. Each new week brings a new adventure. Can’t wait to share more.







  1. Val 2 January, 2018 at 19:31 Reply

    Sadly I can confirm the breastfeeding part as well. Personally, I had a drop in sex drive when pregnant (I know that can go either way), but then even more so while breastfeeding (ugh!). I’m 4 months post partum at the moment, and breastfeeding exclusively, and the hormones involved definitely are tough on your sex life (most other breastfeeding moms seem to say the same thing). Something about your body protecting itself from having kids too close together, haha.

    But your baby will be worth it, and I’m hoping that things eventually go back to normal on this front! 🙂

  2. Liz 28 January, 2018 at 04:57 Reply

    Hi, I noticed you mentioned Lamaze a couple times, are you familiar with The Bradley Method? That what I used, and the information about the stages of labor and the breathing were both VERY helpful. (Since it’s husband “coached” I think Sean might like the idea, and feel more connected to the experience.) I knew I would never do the hee, hee, hee, Lamaze breathing. Bradley is slower and deeper like how you would normally react in pain. I was in labor for 12 hours at home before going to the hospital, then almost 16 more before giving birth; the breathing, and knowing what to expect during the different stages of labor were both VERY helpful. When I saw the clock and noticed it was 24 hours and started to think what if I have to do this another 24 hours, then I was just to tired to keep up, 3 1/2 hours later my baby was born! I know that sounds like a lot but looking back it wasn’t that bad, for me anyway. Just think there’s like 7-8 million people on the planet. It can’t be that bad and back in the olden days women had over 10 kids right at home, no drugs, so how hard could it be?

    • admin 27 February, 2018 at 19:10 Reply

      Wow!! Love this. I’m def going to try to labor at home as long as I can. My doctor suggested that too. It’s so true. They did it back in the day. My grandmother had 8 kids. No drugs. My Mom too. Well three kids but natural. My superwomen. I’m going to look into the Bradley method. Thank you so much for sharing. Knowledge is power. xoxoxoxo

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